A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.
Can you believe it? We are 9 days away from completing The Love Dare series! That is so exciting and I hope this has been a blessing to you and your marriage!
Today’s post builds on Day 30 about Love Bringing Unity.
Yesterday, we discussed the idea of creating and maintaining oneness or unity within your marriage. The coming together of two completely different people can often be a challenging experience, but then you add extended family to the mix and you know how it goes. When I’m talking about extended family, I am specifically talking about parents. On your wedding day, you broke the natural ties with your parents and so did your spouse. That is how God intended it. It’s how things were meant to be. You were to be united as one, become one flesh with your husband, not your husband, your mom and your dad. Your husband didn’t sign up for that and neither did you…or I would think you didn’t!
Yes, I know family ties are not to be broken, but you are to LEAVE your mother and father. Leaving means that you are now joining with your spouse in a new union, a new and beautiful family, without abandoning all contact with the family of your birth. It does not mean you simply leave your parents behind for the new man in your life. Remember one of the commandments, honor your mother and father. That does not mean, listen to every piece of advice or opinion that they have to offer on your marriage or family! It means that your dreams, wishes, plans and decisions are to be made within the walls of the house you share with your husband. You want to foster oneness and unity within your home and that is where everything related to your marriage and family should be managed.
Is there a “leaving” issue you haven’t been brave enough to conquer yet? Confess it to your spouse today, and resolve to make it right. The oneness of your marriage is dependent upon it. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.
At the end of the day, answer these questions:
1. Has this been a hard thing for you to deal with?
2. How has it affected your relationship?
3. If the worse offender in this area is your spouse (with your in-laws), how can you lovingly move this toward a better situation?
Congratulations! You have completed Day 31! Tomorrow’s dare is Love Meets Sexual Needs.